Have you ever tried to give your guy a gift? It’s usually some awkward exchange that leaves you wondering if he likes what you got him, totally hates it, or is just some kind of weirdo. It can be a little disconcerting to a female the first time she encounters this phenomenon, as what was initially a great idea turns to a strange encounter. Don’t worry about it too much though, because for most guys it’s just a natural reaction driven by an innate masculine trait.
When it comes to dating, guys are almost always the hunter. They’re the ones that go up to talk to countless girls just to get shot down and maybe a little embarrassed, but they always have to dust themselves off and try it again. By the same token, guys are used to being the one that pays for the dates, picks up something thoughtful for his lady, and basically does all of the chivalrous things that go into wooing a woman. For most guys, these things are just in their nature and what they’ve been conditioned to do over years of dating experience. They feel like they have to be the ones to impress you, not the other way around.
Also, most guys always see themselves as the protector or the provider. They look out for you and watch over you. They want to spoil you and show you that they’re there for you. When the tables are turned and you are doing something for them, it’s a different feeling. As with any social behavior, the more experience you have with it the more comfortable you feel when it happens. It’s not just about receiving gifts either, have you ever tried giving your guy a compliment about how he looks? It’s unbelievable how they act sometimes.
People are naturally uncomfortable when find themselves in an unfamiliar role. So when a woman gets a guy a gift a lot of times he doesn’t even know how to act. His body language gets a little uneasy and he’s at a loss for words. It can be hard for a guy to just appreciate it and say “thank you”. It’s not because he doesn’t like your gift, it’s just that he wasn’t expecting it and doesn’t have a lot of experience dealing with that type of situation. It’s kind of funny really. Here are these guys that try to be your hero and a masculine figure, yet they crumble when faced with a simple situation like accepting a gift.
If your guy fits into this category, just be patient. Let him know that it’s not a big deal, and that he should start getting used to it. Over time he’ll come around and it will actually make him a more well-rounded person socially.
