You hear women say it all the time…”there’s no good men out there”. Sure, there are a lot of jerks and stupid guys out there (just as there are girls), but maybe the problem lies more within you than within them. One of the main hurdles in dating is that old habits die hard. We are attracted to a certain appearance and/or personality and it’s hard for us to stray from that. Especially when you’re out having a good time (possibly drinking), you don’t think that deeply about it. If you haven’t been meeting good guys, and you keep going for the same type, what do you really expect?Women have an attraction to guys that are exciting in one form or another. Maybe he’s a bit of a bad boy, has a talent, has money or power, or maybe he’s just very assertive. One way or another, women like to feel a certain air of excitement in their men. It’s sexy and it turns them on. It’s this attraction to excitement that leads to a woman to blow off possibly great guys just because they don’t see the “sexy” factor in them right away. Love at first sight doesn’t exist. It’s lust at first sight and love comes later if you’re lucky enough. The problem is that most women never get deeper than the first impression (lust) level, and you wonder why guys say nice guys finish last?

This is not to say that you ditch dating sexy bad boys and start dating a bunch of nice guys you’re not attracted to. These traits are not necessarily mutually exclusive. The point is to open your eyes to the possibility of finding happiness in a different type of guy and give one a chance. You might be surprised at who you think is sexy once you get to know them. It’s funny how much weight we put on first impressions, when most of the time they are wrong. Sometimes it’s good to go against your instincts for a change, especially when they haven’t really been reeling in the good catches anyway.

Great men come in all types and personalities, so don’t do yourself a disservice by blowing them off before you know better. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over but expecting different results. Sound like your love life? If so, break down your mental barriers, try something new, and you might just be surprised with how excited it can make you feel.