Once you get passed the anticipation days and your date is about to start, that’s usually when the real nerves start. We spend so much time and effort to make sure we put our best foot forward, whether it’s choosing the clothes we’ll wear, deciding on a hairstyle, or just making sure we’re well groomed, we sweat over every little detail. Perhaps it’s a way for us to cope with the anxiety, but it also can serve as added stress to an already stressful situation. By paying attention to every little detail we tend to worry ourselves with things that may not really be all that important. Will your date notice if your shoes aren’t shined just perfect? Maybe, but probably not.

First impressions are definitely important. It’s human nature to judge someone when we first see or meet them. As much as we try to be “better than that,” it’s natural to have an opinion on someone the first time you see them. So what does this mean to the success of your date? If you’re able to score points at first look, it can really help to kick off the date on a positive note and make the transition from the pick up to your destination go that much smoother. When people have an attraction to each other, it can make up for a lot of other things that normally might turn them off. That’s why it’s important to take first impressions seriously, as they can really have a big impact on the mood of your date.

So how can you ensure you make a good first impression? There are some general things to consider. First of all, always be well-groomed. Regardless of what your style is good hygiene is imperative. Many people are attracted to many different things, but being dirty isn’t one of them. Another thing that makes a good first impression is doing something a little extra to show your date that you’re trying to make a good first impression. Whether it’s dressing up a little more than normal, putting on cologne, or doing your hair a little different way, making an effort always wins points. Lastly, one quick word of advice…be subtle. When going on a first date with someone, the last thing you want to do is embarrass them. Think it would be hilarious to show up in some crazy outfit? Probably not.

If you don’t hit it off completely with your first impression, it’s not the end of the world. While you’ll have somewhat of an uphill climb, the good news is that there’s a lot of date left. People can be attracted to each other for many different reasons, and first impressions aren’t always a definitive indication of what a person is really like. So even if your first impression wasn’t the greatest, continue on with your date as if was. That confidence can make it easier for you to relax and be yourself for the remainder of the date. In the end, the ability to show your true self is the single biggest thing you want to accomplish anyway. Make sure at the end of the night that your date had a chance to see who you really are. The first impression at the pick up should just be the tip of the iceberg.