One of the best parts of any perfect date is the activity you choose to do after the main destination you went to. For instance, the walk in the park after the nice dinner, or the stop for ice cream after a night of miniature golf. It’s these little “extra stops” that can really leave a positive impression on your date. Up to this point you should be able to pick up on their mood and body language to know how the date is going. If it’s going well, this portion can solidify your “next date” status by keeping the fun going. Alternatively, if the date hasn’t gone very well to this point, this portion signifies your last real chance at turning it around. By putting some thought behind where you want to take the date, you can prepare yourself for success and make sure to go into the end of the date on a strong note.
Finding the right balance of time on a date can be tricky. You don’t want to prematurely end a good time, but you have to be careful not to draw it out too long at the risk of losing the momentum. Every great date ends with a touch of wanting more, which is the feeling that starts the anticipation for the next date. Even if you’re having an amazing time, don’t push for a marathon night at the local dance club. In the end the exhaustion will overshadow the great times you had previously in the date. But extending a date a little while longer with someone fun can really add a spontaneous spark to your experience. The key is to make it something that compliments the main course, but offers enough variety to keep it fresh and interesting in respect to everything else you’ve done during the date.
Hopefully by this point in your date you guys are having some fun and feel fairly comfortable with each other. Choosing what to do in this portion of the date can be hard, but think contrast as a basic principle. For instance, if you had a quiet dinner that allowed you to talk and get to know each other, go out for some dancing afterward. Alternatively, if you went bowling as the main course, head to your local ice cream shop next so that you can sit and talk. The key is to have a healthy mix of fun and intimacy so that you and your date can have a blast and still connect with each other. Plus, it gives you a variety of activities so that if your date doesn’t really care for one you can still score points with the other. It’s important to show multiple sides of yourself so that your date can see all the great qualities about you. If you focus too much on one side, they may get the impression that you’re not as deep personality-wise as you may be.
When it comes picking the activities to do on your date, it’s always good to be prepared. However, you should always allow some flexibility in your plan to allow for those great spontaneous moments. The last thing you want to do is to kill some exciting spontaneity just because you had planned to go somewhere else. If you’re having a great time, go with the flow and see where the date takes you. Maybe your date has an idea of what to do after the main course, and if so go with it. Overall, the dessert portion of your date should be just that. A great compliment to an already fun time. It can be what completely puts your date over the top, and solidifies you in your date’s mind as someone they want to see again.
