Welcome to Relationship Building week! We’ve decided to spend the next week offering articles to help you build your relationships by exploring concepts that help couples grow closer together. Part III of our Relationship Building series focuses on talking about sex with your partner as a way to keep your physical needs in line with each other.
We’ve discussed the importance of sex in a relationship previously here, but I think that commentary needs to be expanded on when it comes to building your relationships. As human beings, we have both mental and physical needs. It’s funny how as we grow in life our focus tends to change. When we’re dating we tend to focus a lot on the physical needs of each other. I think this has a lot to do with the fact that we may not live together, or that we just aren’t necessarily spending every extra moment around each other. That gives us an opportunity to miss each other, and that manifests itself into physical action and attraction whenever we do see each other. As we get older it seems we tend to focus on our mental needs more than our physical ones. I think a part of this is due to just getting older, as well as being more comfortable with each other. As we live together and spend more time around each other, it becomes less physically exciting to see that person because you’re so used to it.
The key to keeping your sexual life healthy with your partner is to be open and honest with them about your sexual interests and needs. While the topic of sex is sometimes taboo, it’s very important that you are able to discuss any topic with your partner if you’re serious about the relationship. Sex is one of those topics. Feel free to explore each others fantasies and desires in a way that can help you both feel fulfilled and try new things in your sex life. The great thing about being in a committed, monogamous relationship is that you can experiment with new things without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. Since you and your partner already share a special bond, you have a lot more freedom to try things that you normally wouldn’t. If it doesn’t work out the way you want it to, you can both decide to try something different next time, without it really affecting the relationship as a whole.
Make an effort to keep your physical attraction fresh by finding new ways to “see” them that takes you out of your every day rut. Don’t let the fact that you see that person every day make you forget how attracted you are to them. Whether it takes getting dressed up for a nice night on the town or just a simple change of scenery, make the effort to not let your sex life with your partner fall victim to our normal routines. It’s important to keep the physical side of our relationship fresh as it’s an important (and sometimes neglected) part of our total happiness in a relationship. The more open you and your partner can be with each other about sex (and everything else for that matter), the better you’ll be able to try new things together and work out any potential differences.
Come back tomorrow for Part IV of the Relationship Building series when we’ll talk about how taking a day to pamper your partner can strengthen your relationship.
