You ever see a pretty girl with a guy that you wouldn’t really expect her to be with? The first thing that pops into your head is why is she with a guy like that. The secret is in the little actions (or non-actions) that make all the difference in the world. While your appearance does make a difference and a woman does have to be attracted to you in some form or another, in order to get the girl (and more importantly, keep the girl) there are a handful of things that you need to remember. These are the nuances that can help you be the guy with the girl that other guys wonder about.
Listen to her
This should be common knowledge, but you’d be surprised how many guys don’t actively pay attention to women. Listening to your lady and having active conversations with her shows her that you are attracted to her brains as well as her body. When your woman is a friend as well as your significant other, it forms a stronger bond between the two of you. Being a good listener also involves just being there while your woman vents about whatever is bothering her. It won’t always be logical, and may not always make sense, but just the fact that you’re there and tolerate her will show her that you’re boyfriend material.
Don’t be overbearing
One of the biggest turnoffs for women is a man that is too overbearing. Calling her constantly to check in and nagging her about her guy friends isn’t the best way to show her how much you trust her, is it? A man that can trust his woman and be secure enough to let her be herself without bugging out is a keeper in a woman’s eyes. It’s natural to feel a little jealousy, everybody does. But being the cool boyfriend that trusts his lady is how you remain in the good.
Interact with her friends
Most guys look at being around their woman’s friends as a chore. But if you actually make hanging out with her friends fun, then you do yourself a couple of favors. First of all, women love a man that interacts with her friends and treats them well. Second, the more fun you are around her friends, the more she’ll want to have you around when she goes out. Being a part of her good time means you’ll be more than just her man when it’s time to be a girlfriend. You’ll be the boyfriend that’s so fun she doesn’t want to be without you. Not to mention, any good will you can muster from her friends is always a plus.
Make her feel good about herself
There is something inherent in all women that makes them doubt their physical appearance in some way or another. Even if you think she’s the most beautiful woman in the world, she won’t always feel that way. It doesn’t matter as much how you look, it matters more how you make her feel that she looks. Women want to know that they’re sexy and attractive, not only to their man, but to all men. Not that she’ll go out and do anything she’s not supposed to, it’s just to know that she still has it. If you constantly make her feel like she’s sexy, why would she want to let you go?
Make her laugh
Women love a man that can make them laugh. Think about it, looks are temporary and they will fade. But a person that can make you laugh lasts a lifetime. When you can make her smile, she will crave hanging out with you more often. Women love being around witty people because they’re so fun. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing, they can make the time fly. Attraction can come in many forms other than physical, and some woman say a man that can make her laugh is sexier than everything else.
Surprise her
Women love to be surprised, because it shows them that you had them on your mind. Surprises can range from very small to very large, but they all have a similar impact. Something as simple as leaving a hand written note that says “I love you” in your woman’s purse can totally light up her day. When you are able to go the extra mile, it shows your woman how much she means to you. Guys are notorious for being insensitive, so if you show her that you are different you have a better chance of being the guy she wants to stay with.
There are many ways to impress your woman, but these are the basic things that can help you stand out from all the other guys that are vying for her time. The bottom line is that if you’re the guy that stays on her mind most of the day, you’re going to be the one she wants to come home to. Do the little things that make a big impact, and other guys will be jealous of you in the long run.
