In part one of How To Find True Love, we discussed a few ways that you can increase your chances of finding your one and only, including not looking for it, not settling for something that’s good enough, and taking a chance. As you can see a lot of the keys to finding true love are really about conquering issues that we have in ourselves. One of the crazy things about love is that we spend a lot of time waiting for it to come from someone else. The truth is, it only truly comes when you have made positive changes to yourself. Here are more tips on how you can find that one true love.
Be true to yourself
Many times we can let our friends influence our dating habits. It’s natural to have a tendency to stick with guys that you know your friends will accept. This can hold you back. What if you kind of think that dorky guy is cute? Or for guys, what if you really like the cute girl that all your friends think is ditsy? As we grow older as adults we think about those things less and less. There’s a reason for that and it’s called maturity. The bottom is line, don’t let some possible embarrassment or uncomfortable situations prevent you from dating someone you like. Your friends will get over it, and if they don’t then they really weren’t your friends anyway. We cannot always control who we like, and sometimes people that seem to be complete opposites turn out to have more in common then they thought.
Be prepared to change
Another reason that we tend to experience the same relationships issues over and over is that we keep acting the same way and exhibiting the same behavior as past relationships. If you never change and grow then you’re basically waiting for some perfect person to come in and make you whole. The truth is, many times we don’t change in relationships because we don’t view the relationship as serious enough to change for. When you find love, that is not the case. When you really find love with someone you’ll notice that both of you start to change, compromise, and hopefully work together. When that starts happening, you know there’s a mutual respect there that goes beyond normal dating.
Don’t be afraid
This might seem silly, but you’d be surprised how many people miss out on love because they are afraid. It’s human nature to be afraid of rejection. No one likes to be rejected, and when it comes to dating and relationships, that fact is even more true. The problem with that way of thinking is that finding love is about putting yourself out there. Why do you think it’s called “falling in love?” You fall and hope that the other person will feel the same undeniable feeling that you do. When then do, it’s the highest high you can get in this world. But you’ll never get there unless you decide to jump in the first place. There comes a time in everyone’s life where they have to ignore their inhibitions and go for it. When your time comes, don’t be afraid of it.
Love is someone that everyone should experience. The unbelievable joys and unmatched pain are so vivid and strong that it’s a great example of what makes living so special. Anyone can physically live, and even live for a long time. But living is something that is not measured in years. Living is about the moments in your life that you’ll remember forever. When you find love, you’ll find that those moments (both good and bad) will increase dramatically. Like they say, it’s better to have loved and lost then to not have loved at all. The power of love can move you and change you in ways that you will never forget, so quit settling for average and take a chance on spectacular.
