Last night my wife and I decided to go out with some close friends and have a little fun. We went to a local sports bar to play darts and have some drinks. Despite the fact that I didn’t win a single game of darts, we were treated to an entertaining display by two girls that were drunk well beyond their limits. I think one issue that plagues a lot of young single people (both men and women) is that we get so caught up in the social drinking aspect of going out that we don’t always put our best foot forward and make the best impressions on people.

I know that everybody needs to blow off a little steam at times, and I’m not saying that we all need to be “on” all the time when searching for that potential partner. But I don’t think that anyone would be proud of being the out of control drunkard that everyone is looking (and laughing) at. The two girls that we saw last night weren’t physically unattractive, but the fact that they were falling off barstools and spilling full beers everywhere made them completely undesirable. It was so bad that I felt embarrassed for them.

There’s a fine line when it comes to bringing attention to yourself. All attention is not created equal, and you need to be mindful of what type of attention you are attracting. If you want to find and meet quality people, then you have to present a positive image. You can still drink, have fun, and be positive at the same time. It’s called moderation. Knowing your limits with drinking is really a microcosm of life in general. You have to know when enough is enough and when to slow it down for the overall good.

Understand that how you present yourself to people is a direct result of how you feel about yourself inside. If you feel that you need to overdo the binge drinking when you go out and meet people, then maybe there’s something about yourself that you feel insecure about. Don’t sell yourself short by acting like an out of control party person. Look inside yourself and work on those things you don’t feel are your strongest characteristics. Then look at where you want to be in your life, and take the steps necessary to get there. Be safe and good luck!