After a relationship ends there are not only hard feelings on both ends (usually) but there is also sometimes a feeling of losing something you wanted, something that you now want even more than before. Even if you are the one who initiated the break up, you may come to think that you made a big mistake, and sometimes that is the case.When you start to act on those feelings is when it may get into a stickier situation than you thought it was going to be in the beginning. Yes, at first it may seem the best thing to do since you start to think of all the fun times you had together, and all the little things that bothered you about them, and now seem trivial. You figure that you could have changed a few things that they didn’t like about you and it wouldn’t have been such a big deal.

When you start to try and get them back is where it gets tricky. You may find it really easy if you are the one that left them, but then again you may not. They may feel resentment towards you or even anger, there is also the chance that they already got over the break up of the relationship and are ready to move on, in which case you would do you both a favor to give them the respect they deserve and try to leave the relationship where it is. Dead. If you’re the one who was broken up with then you face a totally different set of hurdles. They may have left because of another relationship they wanted to get into, or because you just weren’t their type of person, in which cases you may not even have a chance.

You may work towards improving yourself so much that you lose sight of why the relationship broke up. You can ask, and look around for clues, but chances are if you didn’t see them when the relationship was on, then you wont see them now. It may be something so simple as you not listening, or even something so petty as a fight over who ate the last piece of pie. In the latter case, I would take caution and reevaluate your decision to try the relationship over again.

In the off chance that you do get back together I would suggest that you don’t start off where you left off. It may sound extreme and even stupid, but you should start over entirely. You may be surprised at what you missed the first go around, and it could help get you farther than before. If you do try another go around, keep things simple at first and don’t think that just because you spent 6 months getting to the 6 month mark in the initial relationship, which you can speed through those first six months in 2 weeks. You need to REALLY start everything over. Make a game of it, and it may even help the relationship. Go on a first date and actually act like a first date. It may seem funny, but it can only help.

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