Have you ever known a couple that was together for so long, but you never saw them fight? You always wonder how it’s possible, and maybe it’s just because they fight in private and never allow each other to show that side in public. But for some couples, they seriously just do not really argue. If you’re in a normal relationship where you have to deal with arguments that might seem like a dream at times. But in all reality, a couple that never fights probably has more serious issues than one that fights every once in a while.
The only way that a couple can exist and never fight is if one person decides to be submissive and allow the other one to make decisions for the both of them. Sure there can be some times where both can express their opinions, but if there is conflict usually one person in the relationship is the submissive one and backs down to the other. That is the only way that a couple can never argue about things. As humans, we naturally conflict with each other as a way of interacting and growing. We relate with each other in imperfect harmony that makes us vulnerable and allows us to make mistakes.
The only way we truly learn is by making mistakes and pushing through the hard times that life (and love) brings to us. The same holds true for relationships. Relationships that never see the pain, don’t truly grow as strong as they potentially could. Imagine when you were younger and you used to fight with your siblings. As angry as you were at them at the time, by the time you expressed that anger physically and were able to calm down off of that frustration you felt a closer bond with them. When people let their frustration out on each other but can manage to stay close afterward, it strengthens the bond between you. That experience becomes something that you share together, and any mutual memories and emotions are what true relationships are built on.
It’s positive for couples to fight sometimes. It shows that you’re both alive, and that you both feel strongly about things in your relationship. Sure, there are times when you might argue over something petty, but usually they’re just a microcosm of a bigger issue that’s below the surface. If you both can manage to express your true feelings without forgetting how much you care about each other, your arguments can turn into very positive experiences for your relationship. Don’t be fooled by the thinking that couples that don’t fight are perfect. A little disagreement is healthy and part of the natural human dynamic. If you’re never fighting it means that someone isn’t getting their voice heard, and that could be fatal do a relationship in the long run.
