Why does my man always overreact whenever another guys talks to me or offers to buy me a drink? It’s embarrassing and we usually end up fighting about it.

This is a pretty common thing that a lot of couples deal with. The first thing you need to know is that guys know guys. While it may not seem like much to you, and you have no intention of doing anything with that other guy, the intentions of that other guy aren’t always so nice. Women tend to underestimate a guy’s niceness to them and just think they’re being sweet. Sure, sometimes they are. But a lot of times it’s just a part of the dating game, and they might actually have less noble intentions. Being a guy, your man understands why guys do these types of things, and he just doesn’t want it being done to you.

A second thing that you should consider is what if the tables were turned? If your man was the one getting constant attention from other women trying to talk to him and buy him drinks, would you be upset about it? Women don’t usually think of it that way because they’re used to being the center of attention with men. However, if the shoe is one the other foot, I think you would be surprised at how much you would want to start stepping in and telling all those other girls to back off.

Another part of the equation is your man’s inherent need to protect you. While you say that you don’t need “saving” at that moment, sometimes it’s hard to tell when you’re woman needs saving or not and if there’s any doubt you err on the side of caution. It’s always better to have a man that may step in too quick sometimes then to have one that doesn’t step in at all. Part of his reason for doing it is that he does care about you and doesn’t want anything happening to you.

One caveat to all this is that I’m assuming that you have a fairly normal relationship otherwise. If your man is very controlling and doesn’t let you talk to any other men (including your guy friends), then that is a very different situation that you would have to deal with. However, if it’s just a case of overreacting here and there when random guys try to come up to you, I’d say it’s pretty normal and that you should try thinking about it from his perspective. Spend a night out where he gets all the attention and see how you feel about it, and maybe it will become something that is less of an issue going forward.