Ever since I was a little girl I’ve been a tomboy. My brother’s friends never used to even look at me and would pick on me like I was just one of the boys. Now that I’m getting older, I’m starting to feel, look, and dress more feminine and I’m seeing guys actually notice me in a different way. It’s somewhat uncomfortable to me, what should I do?
Well, first of all, everything that you’re going through is very natural. People go through transformations at different times in their lives, and some of the most beautiful (and coolest) women that I know used to be tomboys when they were younger. What I’ve noticed a lot of times is that girls that were tomboys (or were somehow unnoticed by guys at some point in their lives) actually look at themselves more critically than girls that were always popular with the boys. This form of humility can actually play in your favor when it comes to relationships. Since you’ve been used to focusing on more than just someones outward appearance, you’re more likely to see the inner value of someone instead of just how attraction you are to their physical appearance. Most of the time this should lead you to more positive and meaningful relationships throughout your life. Learning those lessons earlier in life leave you better prepared when you become an adult.
On the other hand, being that the attention from guys is somewhat new to you, you may have the tendency to lack a certain confidence in yourself when it comes to the opposite sex. There are many beautiful women that don’t see themselves as beautiful because they’re not used to being attractive. Don’t let the past hold you back or make you think you are something less than you are. Be confident in your skin and enjoy your new found attractiveness. Everyone enjoys being thought of as attractive, and you should enjoy it for what’s its worth now yourself.
Guys are guys, and you should take your new found attention as a compliment to your new more feminine appearance. Take that compliment for what it is and nothing more. While it might be great that you have more dating opportunities now, you still need to approach them with the same restraint as you normally would. Dating is definitely one place where quality beats quantity any day. Continue being yourself and be proud that some of those guys that used to ignore you are wishing they hadn’t now!
