So many times women get caught up in relationships with men that don’t treat them with respect. For some reason there’s always a reason why the woman stays with the guy, whether it be her own insecurities or an inability to understand what a real loving relationship feels like. These situations are always hard because as humans we get comfortable with people over time, and it’s hard to leave that comfortability for the great unknown. For some women, they would rather be in an abusive relationship than risk being alone.
I’ve had friends in abusive relationships and I was always amazed at the difference in perspective in how they saw their men and how I saw their men. Their guys were really verbally abusive, even to the point where they would basically humiliate their women in front of friends. Couples will sometimes joke around with each other and say things that you normally wouldn’t in jest, but when hurtful comments are being said on a regular basis there’s something more to it. Women will constantly stick up for their abusive men by saying that “he does a lot of good things that you don’t see” and “he’s really not that bad”. This continuous acceptance of his behavior is one of the reasons why the abusive cycles don’t stop. If you let someone act a certain way, they’ll never change.
Why do women put up with this? There are many reasons, but most of them center around inexperience and/or a fear of being alone. It happens a lot to younger girls (especially if they’re with an older man), most likely due to their inexperience with adult relationships. When you lack that experience you don’t really know what a “normal” relationship should be like. When you’re with an older man there’s always that tiny bit of alpha dog mentally in the man since he’s the older man taking care of the younger woman. That can permeate to other parts of your relationship and lead to a situation where he’s verbally abusive and controlling. The key to remember is that an abusive relationship (no matter how slight) is not a “normal” relationship.
A lot of people have a fear of being alone, but it’s especially true for women. For some reason our society puts a lot of pressure on women to always “have a boyfriend”. At the same time, it’s not a big deal for a guy to be single for long periods of time. Regardless, this social pressure has manifested itself into a fear for most women of ending up alone. For this reason they stay in bad relationships just because they’d rather be in a bad one then not in one at all. That is crazy! Do yourself a favor and relieve yourself of your bad relationship. Happiness and love always come at the times you least expect it, but you’re not going to find it while you’re still in a relationship. All that does is hurt your chances and ultimately postpone your happiness.
A true relationship is positive and loving (most of the time), and it’s something that you feel special in being a part of. If you’re not getting that feeling from your current relationship, then it may be time to move on. If your relationship is abusive in any way, then you should get out of it. Don’t worry about ending up alone and all that nonsense, the main thing is getting out of a bad situation. The good will come later. If you’re in a situation where you actually fear for your safety, then by all means get your local law enforcement involved and do whatever you can to get out of that situation. A real man makes you feel great about yourself because he loves you with everything he’s got. Don’t settle for less with someone that doesn’t appreciate who you are.
