As different as we can all be, it’s scary how similar our relationship problems usually are. It seems that no matter what our background or personality traits, our social obstacles end up being very similar. Relationships are hard, that’s why most of them don’t work out. It takes a special bond between two people that is built on a strong foundation of admiration in order to make things work long term. It’s not always easy to find that person, and that’s evident in the constant struggle we have to stay in relationships. Here are the 5 biggest reasons that people break-up.
1 – Money
Like it or not, money is a factor. This is especially true in serious relationships where people live together and share the financial responsibilities. One of the big reasons people work so hard to make more money is because it makes a lot of things easier. Money is one of the things that can put constant pressure and stress in our lives since bills don’t just go away. Being together and getting along is hard enough, when you add on financial stress it can be disastrous.
2 – Cheating
It’s really sad how common cheating has become. Just about everybody has either been cheated on, or did the cheating, in one of their relationships. Our society is growing considerably more promiscuous for whatever reason, and it puts a strain on relationships. I’ve always believed that couples can’t truly be happy after one (or both) are caught cheating even if they decide to stay together, and a lot of times they ending up breaking up in the end. However, that’s something that can vary from couple to couple.
3 – Jealousy
Even if you haven’t had any cheating happen in your relationship, jealousy could still tear your relationship apart. We are creatures of habit and our previous relationships mold how we behave in our current relationships. For this reason we might encounter a situation where we don’t trust (or are not trusted by) our partners. This can really put a damper on a couple because no one wants to feel that their partner doesn’t trust them. Also, no ones enjoys having to worry whether or not their partner is out doing something they’re not supposed to do. Jealousy is tough because trust is something that is subjective to all of us. Trying to find the right formula to make it work is hard, and there have been many a good relationship ruined because of jealousy.
4 – Differing Expectations
Communication is important in any relationship, but it’s especially important when it comes to setting expectations with each other. There are many times in a relationship when the couple has two differing opinions as to the seriousness of the relationship. This can lead to a lot of disappointment and hurt, especially if someone is more committed then another. It’s best to discuss your feelings with your partner when you can so that each of you are on the same page.
5 – Growing apart
It’s reality that sometimes people simply grow apart. As we get older and mature our interest and needs in life can change, and those interests may or may not mesh well with our partner. This can happen a lot of times when you get into a serious relationship at a young age. As much as we think we know ourselves when we’re young, we simply can’t predict how our personality will change over time.
Relationships are held together with a delicate dynamic that has to withstand many different types of challenges. These are some of the most common, and you probably have already been through some in past relationships. How do you make sure they don’t happen to you? The biggest factor is finding the right person. When you do, you’ll be willing to compromise and make changes in your life (and theirs) to make things work.
